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At some point, you notice your brain isn’t quite what it used to be. You walk into a room and forget why. You start calling your kids by the dog’s name. You stare at your phone, willing it to remind you what you were about to Google.

Welcome to menopause.

They don’t tell you that one of the perks of this phase of life is that you get to forget stuff. And not in a Where are my car keys? way (though, yes, that too). I mean in a Wow, I no longer remember every embarrassing thing I did in 1998 kind of way.

Apparently, it’s all down to oestrogen. This once-abundant hormone helped keep your brain sharp, your emotions steady, and your ability to remember people’s birthdays intact.

Now, your oestrogen is on a permanent holiday, and your brain is on strike.

At first, this feels like a problem. But is it?

Mindfulness by Default

People spend years in meditation retreats trying to stop thinking. You? You’re doing it naturally!

The great sages tell us to be present, to let go of attachment, to stop over-identifying with the mind. Congratulations! You’re ahead of the game.

Forgetting what you were about to say mid-sentence? That’s just a little spiritual enlightenment kicking in.

Think about it:

• Overthinking? Gone.
• Holding onto grudges? Sorry, forgot what I was mad about.
• Worrying about what people think? Can’t remember what I was worried about in the first place.

It’s not brain fog. It’s freedom.

Releasing the Mental Load

For years, your mind has been the family calendar, the emotional barometer, the endless to-do list. Every detail stored, every task planned, every crisis anticipated. But now?

The filing cabinet is full. The mental admin office is closed.

Your brain has decided it’s time to offload the non-essentials. Do you really need to remember the plot of every TV show you’ve ever watched? Do you need to replay that awkward conversation from three years ago? Nope. It’s all getting cleared out, like old junk in the attic.

And with that space, something wonderful happens:

You start to notice things. The warmth of your tea. The ridiculous little bird dancing on your windowsill. The way light moves across the room at different times of day.

You were too busy keeping track of everything before. Now, you’re just here.

Losing Your Mind, Finding Your Life

Menopause gets a bad rap. Sure, it has its challenges (night sweats, we see you).

But losing your mind in this way? It’s not the worst thing.

You forget what’s unnecessary and remember what matters.

You stop sweating the small stuff. Mostly because you’re already sweating for other reasons.

You learn to let go. Not because you’re trying to, but because your brain simply won’t hold onto it anymore.

So next time you walk into a room and have no idea why, don’t panic. Just pause, take a deep breath, and enjoy the rare luxury of having nothing to do for a moment.

You’re not losing your mind. You’re just making space for better things.